I read a story about a coach who helped a student finish a race. A race she had been trying to conquer for years! This student felt as if she would never finish in time, she had no confidence in herself until her coach kicked off those high heels and ran along side her. She cheered her on and told her that she could do it. She pushed her, she motivated her to keep going. Isn't that what we need as adults sometimes? To be pushed and have someone run beside us? Children are the same and God gave them to us so that we could be their biggest fans! As she ran beside her she told her to not give up, just 3 more laps to go. The girl quickly went from weary to confident as she began to run faster.
As a mom of three I know parenting is not easy, much like this girls race. Every single day there is a new battle. Am I right or am I right? But you can win! You don't have to be defeated by parenthood. I see so many moms and dads post on social media asking for prayers, advice, good thoughts and more because being a parent can be so difficult and these parents are literally begging for help! We just want our kids to be obedient right? Could we be missing the big picture? An opportunity to be more like Jesus ourselves?
What is the first thing you do when your child doesn't listen to you? Honestly I am not calm at all but I am working on that! I yell and then some sort of punishment follows. Then I feel awful for letting my anger get the best of me. I get angry (faster than I should) which leads me to this verse that is helping me. "A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger." Proverbs 15:1 I have realized that the way I react can do much more harm than good. But how do I stop? How do I calm the anger inside of me? I have this verse posted around my house (it really helps to say it out loud). Gods word also says multiple times to obey because obedience gives birth to blessings. Are you obeying what God may be telling you to do? Have you listened to that little voice inside of you every single time? I know I haven't. Last Sunday I felt God telling me to go talk to this lady that I didn't even know. He told me to tell her that she didn't have to do this all by herself. To let God carry her through this storm. Guess what! I didn't listen. Did God yell at me? No. Did he say harsh words and tear me down? No. He softly and gently said next time child please listen to me. You may have another chance but what if you don't?
He reminds us that when we mess up to learn from our mistakes, move forward and don't make the same mistake again. Of course us being humans and living in a world of sin it makes making mistakes pretty easy. But God always forgives us, he always is right there teaching us and guiding us in the way we should go. Do the same with your children. Let them know that we make mistakes and making mistakes is a part of life. Give them examples of things you have been through and the consequences that came along with those choices. God covers our mess ups with love not with wrath. His character is patience, mercy, kindness and grace. He extends all of that out to all of us!
Even when we mess up. Even when we are rude. Even when we are quick to anger, He still shows us these things. Lets cover our children in love, teach them in the way they should go and let them know that making mistakes is apart of life but also show them ways to learn from those mistakes and move forward.
Be sure to watch for part 2! It ties into this blog and will help us all when we feel like we are coming unglued.